Romance in the Right Perspective
At its core, romance involves doing something to express affection in a meaningful yet unexpected way. A lack of romance does not necessarily equate to a lack of love, but why is romance elusive? Since finding the right romantic partner is becoming a difficult journey, it’s time to accept the situation and start dealing with it with the right attitude.
Complete yourself by loving yourself
By knowing your innermost feelings, and not being confused about it, you’ll be able to know on whether you love yourself or abandoning yourself. Once you understand your feelings, move toward those feelings rather than away from them with various forms of abandonment, like staying focused in your head, judging yourself, or making someone else responsible for your feelings. It may be difficult at first, but when you initiate inviting your love into your heart, you consciously open the possibility of learning about loving yourself. Once you have open up your heart towards your feelings, explore further the fears and false beliefs about how you think about your ego-wounded self. If you have experienced being heartbroken, lonely or helpless over someone, find out within you and understand what is causing the pain. The answers may come in words, images, or in a dream, for as long as your heart is open to learning, the answers will come. Then take the loving action of allowing time to heal the shame, anxiety and depression, and overtime, loving yourself and connecting with yourself is the key to loving and connecting with others.
When you begin to chart your life the way you want to live, you will discover that you’re becoming attractive to the right people who are attracted to your sense of independence and adventure.
The problems of the fantasy partner
Beware of being caught up in your romantic notions of looking for an imaginative partner, whom you think is the perfect guy. When you drag yourself into that fantasy world, you start altering your behavior towards the appeasement of that hypothetical partner, in the hopes that someone will fit into that fantasy mold. The result is that you will be wandering away from what is the real path in your life.
The laws of attraction is a mystery and yet very compelling, so that it just means that waiting for your destined partner in life will just turn up in the right time. Decide to act by going on dates, be on the social scene, go for group dating.
Let go of your emotional baggage
Get rid, as soon as possible with that emotional baggage, which is a useless load adding so much heaviness without getting resolutions. By understanding what it is to learn how to love yourself, getting rid of your emotional baggage can be easily done with.